Will NOT recommend this person!

It's more than a month already from when I last posted!

Yes dearies. I am a MRS.
I am a married woman.
Still sounds a bit surreal.

But alhamdulillah...everything went fine.
We had 4 events, 3 receptions and 7 outfits!
Other people might say that my reception look stunningly beautiful and cost a lot.
Truthfully, not so.
My family is average people, our budget is average and we manage to pull it off looking exclusive.
Wow!
I'm amazed myself.

I can recommend almost all vendors of my wedding to brides-2-be.
Except...the one who did my hall dais/pelamin.
My mother actually called this lady, Mila.
Apparently, she did LadyNoe's wedding.

Upon our agreement, she told us there'll be 6 pots, that it'll be all fresh flowers, how the arch would look like, etc etc
On that day however, the pots of flowers were not the same as what she mentioned, she placed like a cheap artificial flower on top of the dais, and the arch was the same old old arch we saw at her boutique!
The pelamin was a disaster.
What my family did was, we brought the big pots from my pelamin at the house to the hall.
And luckily, me & my mom bought enough flowers to decorate the arch.
We gave them to her and she gave many reasons to avoid decorating it.
Furthermore, she was packing to go home with the flowers that WE already PAID!
There were bunch more of flowers, including Roses!
In the end, my aunties decorated the arch themselves, which turned out gorgeous.

Just when I thought that the drama is finished, the very next day she called again in the morning.
Asking for payment. OK. No problemo.
I told my mom that I will call her to give her feedback on the dais.
Since I had stuff to settled with other wedding vendors, I did not call back immediately.
Then my mom told me that she rang many many times asking for payment.
Alright, jeez wheez.
I rang her and kindly gave the feedback from my family.
What shocked me is how she responded.
Not only she interrupted me, but she actually snapped at me.
Accusing me of not wanting to pay bla bla.
I kept my cool saying that I wanted to help her and wanted to give feedback on her work.
She refused to accept! And started asking for money again.
I told her honestly that I'm out and wouldn't be able to transfer it now.
But how she demanded it! My gosh!
I told her that I am not going to pay for the arch as she did not do it.
She had to accept because she knew she will lose anyway.

There were lots of snapping done from her side and I'm surprised that I kept my cool.
Personally, I think she might be having some hutang with Ah-Long or something.
This is not the first time she demanded money like that from us.
But obviously, this time was worse, with the accusing and getting mad at us, who is her client!
I didn't want to pay full amount considering her attitude.
But we paid almost after minusing the arch.

So...I will not recommend her to anyone at all.
Lousy job for the money you pay, and very very lousy way she treated her client!

I will post pics of the solemnization dais that another person did which was absolutely beautiful!
I told her what I wanted, she gave me more than that! =D
Now this is recommended!

For now, I'll sign off first.
Will be back with pics and stories.

Countdown: 4 days

4 days to the BIG DAY!

Lots of things have been done within these 2 weeks.
I'm already on leave from work.
RELIEF!

Truthfully, at this time, I just can't bear going to the office.
So much things running in my mind.
I really treasure my time out from work now.

Progress is: 90%?
Yeah, that's good.
Door gift: Done.
Bunga pahar: Done.
Hantaran: Almost done hehe.

The other day I changed the baju sanding at the very last minute!
And I'm satisfied. I will be taking photos of the dress and maybe post a sneak peek who knows.

And guess what? I saw a really really nice tiffany dress that literally 'ask' me to wear it.

I really want to wear it, I do.
People always say I look stunning in Blue.
But I didn't at that time.
But I am going to. Next week. I vow to go there and try the dress.
Who knows maybe that can be my dress on the 24th?

On second thought, on the 24th the flowers are all in pink and purple shades.
Does Tiffany Blue blend in with the colours?
Hmm...

Anyway, I'm writing randomly.
For the sake of updating.
Tomorrow will be a full day for me.
Starting from 12AM - 1159PM tomorrow!
Why?
Because MIL forbid us to go out on Thursday & Friday!
She said it's too early to the wedding and both of us needs to stay at home.
Furthermore, Fiance has doa selamat on Thursday, so he need to go back to his hometown.
In the end, we pack everything for tomorrow.

Oh, I need to go off now!

p/s: Anyone can recommend a good spa? I heard of Javapuri in TTDI (which is very near), but no one picked up when I call.

Door Gift

A simple title.
But we already know what it stands for.
Meaning...that I am still in search of one!

Can you actually believe it?
I am ONE month to wedding date and still no door gift!
Why? Why?

I insisted that I want eggs for door gift.
I love getting eggs at wedding.
It's just traditional and it's the Malay symbol of fertility.

It did not start at eggs though.
First plan, I thought of giving something like:

Then, because I don't know where to get it, I opt for:

Now, I decided on eggs.
But I still don't know where to get a bekas for it.
The jar looks big enough for an egg to fit...but I still yet to decide.
As I still need to look for it, and to think what else to put inside it.
I'm thinking of bekas that is about RM2.
Possible?

Not sure.
I hope will be possible.
I absolutely need to "bergerak" now!

I saw an egg looking bekas at KK Home Deco, which fits an egg basically.
But that's already about RM3.
Anything worth I can get below that?
Hmm.

Any brides-2-be or post-brides out there willing to share?
=)

Looking out for W Dress

Ok..it is 2 months to wedding.
And...I absolutely NEED to find a great white dress for the wedding on Fiance's side!

I'm frantic already here.
I just figure out that dresses at Cosry will cost 2k and above.
I'm not sure what Fiance will say.

I've run out of ideas of where to look.
I'm not sure if bridal boutique's will have white wedding dresses which are spectacular.
Any that's worth considering?
I can't wear very sexy ones cause I'm just not that kind.
At least give me some sleeves! Hehe.
And I absolutely luurrrveee mermaid's bottom. *drool*

Designer's dress are to kill for!
I love Syaiful Baharim's design that was worn by Daphne Iking (as the model).
But, not sure what's the cost for that.

I am sooo running out of time.
But I need to search quick quick quick!

Something like this for the bottom but in white pleaseeeeeee

The Ring

I found the perfect ring.
And I got it.

I never cared much about getting a ring initially.
Because I already have the other blings that fiance's giving me, which already cost him a bomb.
But...my Mom insisted for me to get a ring.
Compulsary.
Tried to argue. Lost.

So, me and Fiance set to go and find the ring.
The perfect ring was not the one we initially booked.
Initially, I chose one that definitely will Wow anyone's eyes.
Mine too, when I chose it.
It's valuable, with big stones and very glittery.

But at the 2nd visit (supposedly to pick up the said ring), my eyes caught a jewel.
I have been eyeing that design for so long actually, but just didn't get it.
It's so much cheaper than the initial ring but definitely of same value.
So this time, I told Fiance.
I want that ring.

And so, we changed.
Did some changes to it too.
And when it's time for me to take the ring back, I just fell in love with it.
It made me smile.
It made me fall in love with it.
It gave me a feeling that the initial one has not given me before.
Most, I don't feel an ounce of regret picking it.

Yes.
I have the perfect ring for my wedding.
=D

5 months!!

It's MAY!!!!!
OMG!

I have 5 months to go to my big day.
I can't wait.
But I'm anxious.
I'm nervous.

Let's see what have been done and what have not.

Items to be completed by end of May 2009 (4 months to wedding):
Bride's Reception catering - Up to Parents
Solemnization's guest list - Prepare list
Bride's reception guest list - Prepare list
HIV Test - Pending
Photographer (Nikah & Reception) - Paid deposit RM200
Backup photographer (Nikah & berinai) - Secured.
Make Up Artist & Hairdo for my Reception - Secured, paid deposit Rm100

Items to be completed by end of June 2009 (3 months to wedding):
Wedding Dias & Hall Decorations - Pending, to confirm with Mom
Wedding Invitation Card - Pending, still in search
Sepasang Baju for our Bridesmaid & Bestmen x 03 events - Pending
Guests favors - Decided, telur. But pending on bekas.
VIP Guests favors - Done for the Men but still pending for ladies
Friends favors (extra) - pending
Kids favors - pending
Tempahan for baju Nikah - Will need to be sent to designer
Kains, Veils, Shoes & Tailoring x 03 events - Deposit Paid
Photographer (Groom's side x 2) - Tentative, will need to confirm
Dais for Nikah - Tentative, will need to confirm
PA system - Parents will handle.

Items to be completed by end of July 2009 (2 months to wedding):
Administrative work or check ups for Marriage Request/Approval - Pending, in process
Hantaran for Him: Perfume, check. Belt, check. Halwa, ordered. Wallet, pending. Cake: pending. Sirih, pending. Shirt, pending. Handphone, pending. Sejadah, check.
Hantaran for Moi: Handbag & Wallet, check. Blings, check. Handycam, check. Sejadah & Quran, check. Telekung, check. Sirih Junjung, pending. Cake, pending.
Bed in room - Parents will buy because my sis will occupy the room after I get married.
Paint for room - Parents will settle that
Curtain for room - Bought, but underway to tempah.

Items to be completed by end of August 2009 (1 months to wedding):
Invitation cards - To send out to guests
Gubahan Hantaran, Bunga Pahar & Hand Bouquet
Pre-wedding photos & montage - To discuss with fiance
Henna - Trial. Self applied following designs from the Internet
Bunga pahar for Hall Reception

Items to be completed by end of September 2009 (few days to wedding!!):
Flower girls/boys - errr..do I need them?
Bride's reception program agenda - To discuss with family

Items completed, so far:
Booking for Hall - Done!
Kursus Kahwin - Done!! ;)
My Reception 'Kain' for Immediate Family Members - Done!! ;)
House to stay in - Done and furnished! Yeah! =D
Bedsheets - Done!

New update: Surveying

Wow.

Been some time.

I know I've been lacking on updates.

Even on my fotopages and flickr.

Anyway, I've been gone with a reason.

I did many surveying.

On and off the net.

I found a suitable date that I like. =)

But I do still need to discuss with my family.

I hope that it will not be a problem.

Even fiance has agreed on it!

Which is always a, YEY! =D

If everything goes well, in less than 10 months I will be somebody's wife!

Am I ready?

I cannot say that I am 100% ready but I am ready.

To face what's to come.

And I believe that I will grow to become more mature in the marriage.

And that fiance and I will grow together and will cherish each other better.

I am blessed that fiance loves me for who I am.

He loves my good and my bad.

He doesn't care that I can't cook much.

And he loves the fact that I am his baby.

Most of all, he loves me since I was a tomboy with no sense of style and with pimples over my cheek. Hehe.

Getting married is not an easy task.

There's a lot of planning, surveying, etc etc.

A lot of paperwork too!

I wanted to explain how it is to get married if you are Malaysian.

But...that would be for later.

Til then.

See you!

any date yet?

Today, there is so much thing to tell.
What has become of us since my last post?

I'm glad to say that we've become more mature.
I am still trying to be understanding to him and his work.
And he is still trying to understand me in being me.

But nonetheless, everything seems to go fine.
I am much much grateful now just to have him supporting me.
I acknowledge that I will gain nothing if I keep on complaining and sulking of our love life.
Love is to be happy.
And happiness is the way to a greater life.

He has done so many things to make our life after marriage work.
We have so much blessings that not all people in the world have.
I have God's love and support.
I have a stable job, although I seem to be bored with it.
I have great friends, who actually enjoys my company.
I have an awesome part-time job.
And I have a man who loves me as who I really am, and can't wait to be married to me.
These are all the things that are more than what I ask for, and more than I expect!

Now, we're deciding on a date to get married.
Meaning, that it will be soon.
I have a date set in mind, and fiance seem to agree.
In fact, he doesn't really care about the date, as long as it is appropriate...
And, as long as it is in an appropriate time to get married.
There are a lot of to do list to prepare.
But I will manage.
I always do.

And although many people will think that it's too early,
or that I may not be ready enough...
I would say, you never know until you've done it.
Life is full of learning experiences.
And marriage is one of the biggest of it.

I might be a bit nervous.
But what the heck!
Never say never.

Go or No Go

Back from vacation and I realize that I absolutely have less than 2 years to plan for my wedding!
I have discussed with him and we agreed that if it's possible, we planned to wed on 1st January 2010.

Had a talk with his Mom and she made me realize that I have to start planning the wedding from now because this is not going to be a small thing like the Engagement but something much bigger.
There is so much involved and these are the times when you have to make sure everything is perfect to every particular details.

Right now, I'm much concern of him. We are getting married, as in this is in serious talk, but is he well-prepared?
Mind wise, I think so. But money wise? I am not too sure.
He tells me that he has so much money. But every now and then, I see him struggling for it.
I'm scared. For him. For both of us. Is he not aware of our situation right now?
I tried telling him not to risk too much. But he is a man. No man listens.

If I decided to 'Go With The Flow' right now, does it make sense?